I'm Ashley and if you knew my last name you'd probably make an obnoxious mustard joke, so I'll save you the embarrassment. I come from a cray cray suburb in Tejas, but I'm now spending most of the year living it up in D.C. I enjoy making metaphorical love to my platonic soul mates, passing for a lesbian, drinking chai tea in coffee shops, writing esoteric poetry, being a gay rights activist and laughing at my own jokes. Also, Fitzgerald is the love of my life. Oh, and just so you know, if you have facial hair I require that you shave before reading my blog because I have a slight case of pogonphobia. Grassy ass.
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mmmmmcookies:
irrashunal:
mmmmmcookies:
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Okay, so this made me chuckle inside because it’s not the expected answer and it fits me pretty well.
BUT, I can’t post this without acknowledging the virgin/slut dichotomy this is based on and the reality of how troubling that is. Women should enjoy sex with whomever they want for whatever reason they want to and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Hey Ashley <3
What I gathered from it was a rebuttal to the opposite meaning - aka, the assumption that all girls will/do sleep around a lot. I reblogged it not because I slut shame, but because I stand on the ground of defending my own virginity, just as girls who sleep with multiple partners should have the right to defend that.
Oh, definitely Marley. And that’s actually why I reblogged it. There’s a lot of virgin shaming and pressure on girls to have sex (especially in college), and I’d say it’s comparable to slut-shaming, though only having experienced the former I couldn’t tell you for sure (and I’d gather to say it varies depending on where you are and who you hang out with). But yeah, I posted it because I’m a virgin and people assume I’ve had sex and have made comments, which bothers me a lot. Mostly because sex is a really private and personal thing for me and it’s none of their business. …though, it’s really not an unfair assumption, as I’m sure you can attest to living across from my last year. I really can’t complain about people on our floor thinking that regardless of whether it bothers me, it’s a fair assumption… but when other people who don’t know me assume that (usually Eli’s friends), it just rubs me the wrong way. But we have been dating since October, so I guess that’s a fair assumption too. I just hate people assuming thing about my sex life and sexuality. Speaking of which, Eli thought I was a lesbian for 7 months. LOLOL.
Anyway, I posted it because we shouldn’t be shamed for whatever choices we make regarding our bodies.
I just wanted to acknowledge the dichotomy it suggests and say I don’t support that. I’ve historically been pretty prude. Also, I’m not proud of it, but I have slut-shamed in the past a lot because of my own discomfort with sex in general. I just wanted my readers to know that my reblogging this I wasn’t slut-shaming, but appreciating the OP’s response and being able to identify with it. So it’s not an attack on you or the OP or anyone else for slut-shaming. I’m just covering my ass. (Source: efrennn)
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